One of the most powerful tools we all have in preventing suicide is something we use every day: our voice. While starting a conversation about mental health or suicide might feel uncomfortable or intimidating, it can truly save a life. When someone is struggling, simply showing you care and being willing to talk can make all the difference.
Why Talking Helps
Many people dealing with mental health challenges suffer in silence. They might feel ashamed, afraid or believe no one will understand what they’re going through, but connection is powerful. When you take time to ask how someone’s really doing—and genuinely listen—you help break down isolation and create a path toward hope and healing.
Your willingness to start a conversation could be the first step someone needs to seek help.
Warning Signs to Watch For
It’s not always easy to tell when someone is struggling, but there are warning signs that might signal it’s time to check in. These include:
- Talking about feeling hopeless, trapped, or being a burden
- Withdrawing from friends, school, or activities they used to enjoy
- Drastic changes in mood, behavior, sleep, or appetite
- Increased use of alcohol or drugs
- Giving away prized possessions or making comments about “not being around”
If you notice any of these behaviors in someone you care about, don’t wait—reach out.
What You Can Say
You don’t have to be a mental health expert to help. Often, just being present, honest and caring is enough. Try starting with:
- “I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed like yourself lately. Want to talk about it?”
- “I care about you, and I’m here for you no matter what.”
- “Are you thinking about hurting yourself or suicide?”
It’s okay—and important—to ask directly about suicide. Research shows that asking does not increase risk. Instead, it shows the person they’re not alone and that someone truly cares.
How to Be a Good Listener
Sometimes the best support you can offer is simply to listen. Here’s how:
- Stay calm and patient, even if the conversation is difficult
- Let them share without interrupting or jumping in with solutions
- Avoid minimizing their feelings or trying to “fix” things too quickly
- Thank them for trusting you and speaking up
Remember: your presence and compassion are more powerful than any advice you could give.
Get Help Together
If someone opens up about their mental health, it’s important to remind them they don’t have to face it alone. Offer to connect them with help, whether that’s a school counselor, therapist or another trusted adult. You can say:
- “You don’t have to go through this by yourself.”
- “Would you feel comfortable talking to a counselor? I can go with you if that helps.”
If you believe they’re in immediate danger, do not leave them alone. Call for help right away.
Helpful Resources
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call or text 988 or visit 988lifeline.org
- Crisis Text Line – Text HOME to 741741 for free 24/7 support
- School counselors, mental health professionals, or trusted adults
Everyone Has a Role in Preventing Suicide
It only takes one conversation to create connection, reduce shame and point someone toward the help they need. You don’t need to have all the answers; you just need to show up, listen and care.
Be the one who starts the conversation. You never know how much it could mean.
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